I am too honest to be religious. Religion lains waste to honest reflection and questioning.
Many people claim to be religious. How many are pretenders?
There may be good reasons why a person pretends to be religious. A religious son adores his devout mother so much that he could not bare her to learn of his atheism. However, unknown to him and family, the mother is an atheist, and has been for decades. Like the son, she became a religious pretender in order to protect her mother’s feelings, and so on.
How to break this circle of lies? Honest reflection and questioning. And that takes great courage.